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I say if you love a person, judge for yourself when is the right time.

I agree with the first part of what you said, but the people who I'm thinking of (who will have terrible relationships based only on their sexual attraction to each other) aren't capable of judging when the proper time is, they just want sex.

It's not so simple as yes or no.. I probably couldn't fit all of my thoughts on this in a book, because there are so many factors.

Living with someone is a different story, little pet peeves can drive you insane, but sorry, sex isn't that important to me. Maybe I'm a defect or something. Sex can cloud judgement and keep terrible relationships going for years before they end in one terrible explosion. My mother and father married so they could have sex, and after 25 years my brothers and I were forced to live in a split family. Maybe that affects my point of view a lot. If you've been together for a year or more and haven't had sex yet with no major relationship problems, then it can't really hurt much, that I'm not debating.

try before you buy.........you don`t buy a car till you give it a test drive...

I don't know why people say that so much, a woman isn't like a car. If you're marrying for good sex then you're marrying for the wrong reason and it isn't going to last, or if it does, it will be miserable. The people with the best sexual relationships are the ones who believe it to be the least important aspect of the relationship.

I suppose I don't have the experience to say, but I arrived at this conclusion by watching marriages crumble because of poor friendships. The ones that didn't crumble were actually interestingly enough mostly ugly people.. When you disregard looks then only the personality shows through and they married for the right reasons.

... I guess continuing the car symbolism, how often do people keep their (new) cars for more than 8 years.. and used cars?